Being a Light

Hey everyone! So sorry I’ve been out for so long! I just started a new job and had to get used to it for a few weeks so I could settle in. But that’s not my excuse!! I’ve been feeling this ugly winter blues around me. I’ll get into those details soon! I also promised that I will write about my snow tubing experience in this blog post and you will see some pics too!

MY NEW JOB

I started my new job as a receptionist at a car dealership last month at the beginning of February. It’s definitely not easy for sure. Where do I even begin? Being at front desk is not easy. You are literally the face of the company, the first person that walks in the door, they see you. Here are some details of my new job, at my desk, I receive tons of calls, some non- stop and I can’t really leave to go take a potty break because I can’t even miss one phone call. And let’s not forget to mention the annoying inappropriate music that play around all day. It’s awful! I feel like I’m in a club…

All the sales people at my new job are constantly under pressure. I would say that their job is on the list for most hard job in the world (besides doctors, cops, and paramedics) . They have to please people, and even deal with them too! (LOL) Of course I have to deal with the tough ones too, and even get yelled at sometimes. A car dealership is a bull dog environment, you get snapped at, looked at, and hear complaints sometimes. Don’t worry, it’s not mostly negative, sometimes it’s chill! But you know one thing that I notice anytime I get a job somewhere? I know that I’m there for a reason. It’s not a coincidence, I’d say it is a God-incidence.

A God-incidence you say? Absolutely yes!! A God incidence means that God does something on purpose, in order for you to realize that things are for the good, even when things seem bad! In my second week of working at the CD (Car Dealership), I put a bowl of candy and a beautiful plant. I wanted people to come by and talk to me! This was my way of offering kindness and peace to anyone around me. I did this for kids who come by and even for adults who come by the CD.

I won’t lie, I already had a few downs working there, but I did not give up! I started putting paper scripture verses on top of my computer, and I was not ashamed of it! I am not ashamed of the Gospel!! At my work, I am still figuring out who is a believer and who isn’t, and so far I know of two people who are believers. It’s so funny because today one of the managers asked me about the “bible verses” that I was typing the other day on my computer. And I smiled and said “yes, I like to keep them in front of me so I can be positive and so that I will know that everything will be okay.” He was happy to hear about my bible verses. He then mentioned that he is a Christian. I was so happy to hear about that! That made me laugh to myself because God never puts me in a place without having believers around me.

You see, even in the toughest work environment, you can be a light to those around you because the light of God GLOWS. It’s amazing to see that the small bible versus that I have on my desk, people actually pay attention and see them! Bible versus are good to have around because they are great conversation starters!

To conclude, even when your going through a rough time, even at work, just know that people will notice that there is something different about you, they will see the light. No matter the situation, know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Let me say it again YOU ARE NOT ALONE! God has your back. Even in tough times when you feel like your not good enough, just know that you are not alone. Even at my workplace, sometimes I feel alone, but I know I’m not because God is present.

May God Bless You Always,

-M

P.S. I had an amazing time snow tubing. It was my first time ever going snow tubing. And it was so much fun with friends and family! Here are some pictures below!!

The place where we went to go snow tubing! Snow Valley!
BIG SNOW MOUNTAIN! On the other side of that snow mountain, there were even bigger mountains!!
A Selfie while going up the hill!

Our good friend Jordan on the left and Michael, my husband on the right!! Good friends and family are a blessing!
WHAT A HUNK!!!!!

A Woman’s view on a Godly MARRIAGE

Our Wedding Day

Okay so this post may be cheesy to some of you, I don’t know about you but I LOVE cheesy! Marriage can be a fairy-tale if you make it one. But here is the thing if you want that kind of marriage, you and your spouse have to work hard to keep it at that level. Don’t get me wrong, all the LOVEY-LOVEY-CHEESY exists. In our own marriage we work hard to have what we want in terms of that DREAM MARRIAGE. So I added a few things that I think are important in a marriage!

1. COMMUNICATION

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Communication is super duper important when it comes to marriage. For example if you and your friends are planning to hang out, you just tell your spouse that your friends and you want to go hang out (this can be to go out and have a bite to eat with a group of friends or even a movie night.).

The other thing about communication is you TELL your spouse how you feel. If you don’t like something that they do, tell them. For example, sometimes I don’t fold the fresh clean laundry right away (Don’t tell anyone haha.) and my husband does not like that sometimes, so he offers to help me by folding the laundry with me! And we get the job done quicker. What I am trying to say by this is to make a plan; For example, If I cook, my husband would do the dishes. I LOVE when he washes the dishes lol. Make a plan with your spouse, communicate together, and create a plan.

The other thing that I would like to mention is that when something is bothering you (at work, life in general), tell your spouse. It’s important to have someone you LOVE to listen to what you have to say and vice versa.

2. PRAY FOR EACH OTHER

I believe prayer is also important in marriage. When you pray for each other, you also form a bond with your spouse. When you pray together, it shows that you care for them, especially when they pray for you. There is nothing more handsome than seeing my husband praying for me! I LOVE it when he prays for me. It makes me feel so loved!

We also say grace together before we eat our meal, it is important to say grace before eating your meal because you are giving thanks to the LORD.

3. APOLOGIZE

Yes, say sorry, even in the public. Arguments are no fun, but we are all human. Pride takes over and sometimes I didn’t want to apologize when I was in the wrong. But to be a good wife, I had to apologize because if I didn’t and I was in the wrong, I would be sinning.

To be honest, I don’t believe in “The wife is always right” because it’s not true! As women, we can be wrong too! Also, don’t go to bed angry at your spouse! You know what the bible says about that?

“In your anger do not sin” : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry

Ephesians 4:26

It’s true! When some people talk about marriage, they say never go to bed angry with your spouse. Instead, solve everything before you go to bed, that way when you wake up, you won’t be angry at each other. It is the best feeling ever when you wake up at peace. Who doesn’t love waking up with peace in your mind!

The verse from Ephesians 4:26 basically says don’t be angry when you go to bed. Therefore, apologize to your LOVE!

4. ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER

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That’s right, if one falls down, you help them back up. Last week, I had to quit my job in downtown Toronto because the commute was not worth it and it was just too far. I had an interview that same week with another company near by my home, in fact 15 minutes away from my home. I was told from the interview that if I get the job, I will hear from them by Friday. Well here I am on a Tuesday working downtown, and suddenly I think working in downtown wasn’t worth it. I call my husband, we talk about the current job that I had and we both made a decision together that I should not be working in downtown. My husband supported me in my decision and encouraged me that I’ll find something better.

Near the end of that day, I went to one of the supervisors and told them the reason why I couldn’t work there anymore, and so I resigned. That day, I never felt much more free because let me tell you, if you don’t live in downtown or even close to downtown, commute is definitely not worth it! It took 45 minutes to get to work and 45 +more back to home and waking up at 5:30 A.M. EVERYDAY . The very next day (Wednesday) I started looking for work, still hoping that I would get a job from the company I get interviewed at.

It’s Friday, and I waited for the call ALL DAY. Then, my phone rings. I was told that I got the job (I held in my scream). After the phone call ended, I screamed, calmed myself, and called my husband. When I told him about the job, he told me that I did a good job. He really was happy too! I’m so thankful that God made a way when I thought there was no way! Words of affirmation from your spouse are important when it comes to good news!

These were just a few things that I believe what a Godly marriage is about.

May the Lord Bless you

P.S. tomorrow is our 1 YEAR ANNIVERSARY!!

M

Marriage, is it for me?

When I was a little girl, I dreamed of marriage.

I grew up in a single-parent household. My mother raised me by herself the youngest child of three (I have two older sisters), it was hard. I moved a lot, changed many different schools, lost contact with some of my very close friends, we even foreclosed the condo that we lived in, that was hard for me it was awful, the living conditions there were explainable. My view on man changed when I saw how hard my mother worked. I honestly hated men, and thought I could never trust any man, because I saw my mother doing everything. I always leaned toward women, because to me they were more comforting.

I was always so cautious when I had a male teacher or male people around me. I trusted my grandpa mainly the most when it came to male figures, and of course, God too. To be honest even seeing little girls hold their dads hands made me very jealous and angry, but God already knew how I felt. Growing up, I was never a troubled kid. I rarely caused trouble.

When I was a little girl, I dreamed of Marriage. As I grew older, I had doubts of someone wanting to marry me. You see, I wanted to be a wife so bad and the devil put thoughts into my mind making me believe that no one wanted to marry me. A few of those thoughts included insecurities about my appearance. My whole life I felt that I needed to be someone else because of how people thought of me. Well let me tell you, THE DEVIL IS A BIG FAT LIAR!

I cannot express how thankful I am to God, I just can’t thank Him enough!! I met my husband years back at Messiah College when we were teenagers. Little did I know (haha) that he would be my husband today. (I’ll add our love story in another blog hehe.) My dreams came true in 2016, God allowed me to have a man to enter in my life. Everything from there changed, my look on man changed. My views of how men behave changed because not every man out there is the same, everyone has their a personality of their own. I became more open to having conversations to men (in this way I mean like congregation members of my synagogue.) This doesn’t mean I had no boundaries because till this day I am cautious and conservative when I shake hands with a man or even hug them. Sometimes men in congregations want to hug me, but I learned that you can extent your hand to give them a handshake out of politeness. You don’t have to hug everyone you see!

Before my husband, I dated no one. I waited for my husband. He was the only person I dated, and the only person that I entered a relationship with. Before I even knew my husband, I prayed for him. Ladies, if you think there is no man for you out there that God won’t give you, your wrong because God does not want man to be alone, we (women) are the helpers of man. Pray for the right man, God will give him to you. Also, I have nothing against single women, nor single women in ministry either, everyone has their own purpose and destiny.

On February 5th, 2018

We got married.

Forever in Love
Forever with God
Best Day Ever

So if your thinking now about marriage, is marriage for you?

My answer is yes.

God bless you,

M

The proposal

November 26th, 2017

One of the best days of my life.